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Mother’s Day Memories
Good Morning Mom, I have no clue when you will see this but I know that you will be pleasantly suprised when you read this. You see this is my very 1st blog, something i have wanted to do for a while now and finally doing it for you for Mother’s Day.
I remember alot from my Childhood about my mom. Her role in our family was the backbone as with most families of babyboomer kids. We were raised in a very small Catholic Community in Nipomo, California that I consider to have been the best Catholic Community in California. My God Parents the Frias’s family lived across the street with their 9 kids, The Caroll’s had 10 kids of which half of them were adopted. The Geaslen’s with their 7 kids at the time, The Hunstad’s with their 7 or 8 kids.
Our familiy was one of the smaller families in town, with just myself, my brother, and sister. The Blairs had their 3 kids, The Gariboldi’s had 3 kids, The Romine’s with their 5 or 6 kids, The Dana’s had dozens, since the majority of their kids i remember are Leonard’s, who is the youngest son of the 21 kids of Capt Dana and still running the Nipomo Liquer Store on Thomson Ave in his young centennial life. The Dana’s are the founding family of Nipomo that has pretty much made Nipomo what it is today.
The Knott’s family put Nipomo on the map with Jocko’s Steakhouse, it is right across the street from the Old St. Joseph’s Catholic Church down the street from Leonards Liquer store. You are probably wondering why I’m mentioning all these families, you will understand after i tell you the memories growing up in this town and celebrating Mother’s Day along with other holidays was a staple with my mom and dad and the impact it has on me as a Mother.
My mom had always had us kids on a strict schedule, homework right after school, she always made our lunches in the mornings, washed our uniforms, I went to Catholic Schools for 13 years. She had taught us kids to be up early and eat breakfast and all three of us would be dressed for school and ready to go like clockwork every morning.
For those of you who dont know that there is exactly 3 years difference between the 3 of us Kids. Mom had us all by C-Section and picked our birthdays. I just happened to be born on my brother’s 3rd Birthday and my sister is sandwiched in between us. She always made our Birthday Cakes and we always had huge birthday parties with all the neighbors kids so presents were always abundant as a kids here. It was simple for mom she only had to have 2 huge parties a year, simplified things for herself.
I remember mom cutting me and my sister’s hair the same way when we were younger, and we dressed alike like twins only different color dresses. When i was 5 mom gave me a permanent and colored my hair, i had huge curls in my hair like Shirley Temple but with Lil Orphan Annie Orange hair. Mom reminded me the other night how i hated that cut. I survived. Mom had always kept my hair short, i had a habit of falling asleep outside to take a nap and always had gum stuck in my hair. I always wanted to be close to brownie, my horse and ride him all the time just so he could park along the fence and the both of us take a nap.
I think he was Mom’s favorite babysitter for me. She didn’t have to worry about us outside, Brownie had close family ties with mom when she was younger. He happened to be a foal of my mom’s horse when she was a teen. Mom taught us very young how to take care of the horses, We got up and fed and watered them when they needed it and fed the dog and cat. The animals were our family too.
Mother’s Day was always a great day to wake up to hear my dad in the kitchen starting breakfast on those mornings, he would always cook on Mother’s Day and allow mom to sleep in. It was us Kids who had the responsability of taking in her breakfast tray, with her morning coffee, juice, eggs, bacon, toast, and potatoes along with the morning paper. We would happily be watching her enjoying her breakfast in bed. We always went to mass like clockwork to the 10am mass on Sundays… on some Mother’s days there would be festivities at the Men’s Club, or at Dana’s Cabin, or at GrandPa Dana’s House where i really loved to go for the Avocado trees everywhere.
We always made her Mother’s day cards at school with Construction Paper and Crayons. Mom had saved most of them and i have them in my trunk with my other family memories that i cherrish. All of us kids went to the same school with the families kids i listed above. St. Patrick’s Catholic School in Arroyo Grande, California.
I remember when mom 1st went back to work when i was in 2nd or 3rd grade. her absense when i arrived home after school, we had a babysitter until mom got home at 530pm. We learned from those years to have dinner ready when she got home. We always ate together as a family, except dad was working nights as usual.
Mom taught us all how to play piano, My sister and I were in 4H, with the horses, and market lambs. Us kids were able to grow up pretty independent, we were raised to go outside and play and come home for dinner. We had enough friends to play with, and plenty of acreage behind our house to ride, or shoot squirrels with grandpas 22. Most days we would go to the bluffs and slide down them on our butts, or build forts in the Euclyptus trees, swim in the resevoir down near the edge of the bluffs and occassionally bring home broccolli or carrots from the fields.
Life was Great growing up in the 60’s, and 70’s because we had so many other parents watching out for us. Im Truly blessed to have had all the Mother’s that have assisted me in my life time but most importantly my own Mom for her dilligence and persistence on what she wanted for her kids, a great education came 1st and foremost, food on the table, and clean clothes to wear, even though they were few and far between.
Our family was not a financially wealthy one, but my mom along with my dad gave us a 2 week vacation every year, a trip to disneyland, Mount Abel for sledding in winters, water skiing in the summers and lots and lots of camping. it was alot of work to plant your own garden, which we all participated in to grow our own vegetables for those years we needed too.
I spent days during those years thinking of the other families in our neighborhood, how a good number of them didnt travel for vacation, or go to disneyland like we did. They stayed home and did what families did back then spend time together with the kids.
As I aged to my early to mid 20’s i went through a phase that i thought i had the most horrible mother on the planet. I resented her during those years, but something snapped in me one year and i totally understood her Mother Skills came from her own mother and she did the best she could from learning from her mother. She always told me to “Don’t do as i do, Do as i say. All i could think was Hypocrit, but if she had worded it differently i probably would have listened more. It wasn’t easy to learn that it is important to search within yourself for the answers to live the life you want. If you really want something you will do whatever it takes to get it.
When i approached highschool at the end of my sophmore year, It was my mom who had used her savings to get me braces on my teeth, and rhinoplasty from the inheritence of my Grandfather’s nose. I was constantly teased at School but i had the strength from what my mom told me to say. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your words will never hurt me.” Kids didn’t fully understand the use of affirmations neither did i back then but it sure worked, and it helped make me who i am today raising my family.
My Senior Year Mom made most of my outfits for School. I loved them, i wore them for my senior potraits, and wore them all the time and thought i had the most talented mother back then. I was different and Unique because everyone else had most of their clothes store bought. I appreciate the things my mom did for me and taught me.
People tell me today that im the spitting image of Mom, and my Daughter Cassie hears the same thing about herself and I. This Mother’s day as with all the past Mother’s days for the past 20 years, I have truely been blessed with 3 beautiful kids. Their world brightens mine everyday. Cassie was my very 1st Mother’s Day Gift almost 20 years ago. Her Birthday finally lands on Mother’s Day again next year for her 21st Birthday, but until then she will still be my daughter whom Im so proud of for the woman she is becoming.
I have a Mothers day gift from Loren sitting on my dresser that is handmade at school with a warning to Zach to not open it is not his. LOL.. Autism and Motherhood truely makes any mother who lives with the epidemic in her family a remarkable trait to pass on to future family generations. I have always instilled the affirmation that “Patience is a Virtue.” Dealing with Sibling Rivalry, when you have children who dont have Autism is a challenge for any family to endure.
We can only Hope for the best for our kids, I have raised mine the best i know how, and my own daughter told me last week that she was glad that she was raised the way she was, because she has a deeper appreciation for the kindness of her adopted moms and her friends throughout the years. This is the Motherhood I love the most. When All Mothers truely come together to share their Mother’s Intuition and wisdom with other kids.
I want to thank you all for everything you have shared with me and Thank you @AutismFather for sharing your family blog on your mom. The Inspiration you give us Autism Parents is asstounding and I can only hope that someday i can articulate as well as you can in my future blogs. Happy Mother’s day mom, Have a great Brunch with Terry. I love you. Sherry
Darling Daughter,
I cried when I read this and I am so proud of you. It is very well done and I am glad you turned out so well. It made all the hard work well worth it. Love you dearly.
Mom
HI Sherry, Happy Mother’s Day to you. Nice Blog.
Terry